We live in a time where almost everyone is desperate to “find themselves.” People dig through personality tests like they’re scriptures. We binge astrology, attachment styles, enneagram videos, trauma TikToks, spiritual labels, mental health diagnoses, identity quizzes, political tribes, aesthetics, niches. Everyone is hunting for a definition. But the truth nobody wants to say is this: Most people aren’t exploring identity. They’re trying to survive through it. When the nerv